What brought you to this article? Is it because you want to know if you’re making the right choices as a parent? or are you a soon to be parent?. Well whatever that is, you came here because you were curious. You wanted to increase your knowledge on something that you truly care about. Have you ever asked yourself,
Does my behaviour affect my children’s attitude?,
Am I being over protective?.
These are the questions that we will try to answer as we go along.
Does my behaviour affect my children’s attitude? The only way to answer that question is to put yourself in their situation.
When I was a child growing up. I never liked it when my parents never trusted me with anything. I could never understand why. It just never made sense to me. I was a good child. I always followed the rules.
There’s this famous saying,
” trust is not given, it is earned”.
I know most of us would buy into that, and part of it is true. But I believe that starting to build trust with your child at an early age is the right choice. let me explain.
Parents are responsible for building a good trust system between you and your child.
A good example would be my friend, lets call her Dona. Donas parents are very over protective of her. She never did anything wrong. She had a curfew at 6pm. She could never go out with her boyfriend late without having her sister come along. She knows that they are not doing anything wrong and that her parents are being unreasonable She felt like she had no choice but to lie to her parents so that they can be together.
That’s one of the reasons why we lie, and the reason why most children treated that way ends up being rebellious.
Now if you were to trust your child, make them feel that you trust them. You would get a totally different result.
I, myself, would never do anything to break a trust. I value trust more than anything. I would be foolish to break a trust given to me without having to earn them. I think that would be a child’s initial reaction. That is why trusting them early is very important. Its putting them in the right direction.