Relationship 101: who controls your relationship?


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The person who cares the least, Controls the relationship.

We all thought about this situation and we have it at the back of our minds, but we don’t talk about it. It is not something that couples talk about. You may be doing it already, you just haven’t realized it. It might also be working out to your advantage, but not all people have the same way of thinking. It also can be a complete disaster movie. (This only applies to serious relationships)

What I’m saying is, people react differently. Some might be OK with it and some might be completely offended by it. Some relationships are unconsciously doing it, and it might be working out for them.

My theory is that, successful couples has the right amount of care between the both of them, which created balance in their universe.

In my opinion, it doesn’t need to be equal, you just have to analyze your situation and figure out what works out for the both of you. I mean, Its really just finding the right combinations.

Now to answer the question, Yes its true and will continue to be. Its not always a bad thing, again if it works for your relationship and it creates balance, then it must be doing something right.

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Now, it doesn’t mean you don’t care at all, that’s different. It just means that you’re opening up some space for your partner to fill up. It sometimes the other way around, your partner may have some space for you to fill up. Key is don’t go over that limit, Just fill up whatever needs to be filled and stay within it. Some people tend to be overwhelming and most of the time their partners feel that they are obligated to match it. They will feel pressured and sometimes confused, which can lead to a breakup.

You may agree or disagree with this point of view. Keep in mind that this is just the technical side of things. Relationships are complicated that way. There are a lot of areas to be covered when it comes to this. Its just really a matter of perspective. We all think differently in different situations. This is just for those people who needs an answer to, “why things are the way they are?”. I hope to have covered that area.

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