7 GUY Rules on the First Date


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1. Always pay for the first date

It is a must that you pay for the first date even if she offers to. It creates an unspoken understanding that you are not cheap. That simple gesture gives them the sense of security they look for from guys they are dating. Also it gives a good first impression and it leads to later rewards.

2. Always maintain eye-contact for the duration of the date

During the date do not give out any vibe that you are nervous and the best indicator of that is through your eyes. Maintaining eye-contact tells your date that your are confident and that you are willing to listen. Never look down or look elsewhere when she is talking to you. It might appear to her that you lack self-confidence and that is never a good thing.

3. Practice your lines

It is important that you come prepared for a date. Go over your lines in-front of a mirror or with your pet dog do whatever you think will help you. Practice conversations and confrontations with yourself and do not be ashamed because if you really like that girl you don’t want to mess this up. This will avoid awkward silences which is really brutal on first dates. I’d rather be well equipped than go about it blind-folded.

4. Ask questions about her

Start the conversation with a question. Ladies like to talk about them and make sure that you listen to every word she says. Make notes in your head so you can quote her after. This tells her that you are interested.

5. Be confident

Don’t be afraid of judgement. Ladies find honesty sweet. Tell them who you are and what you do with confidence. Its one thing to be a janitor but its another to be self-concious about it. Ladies can sense lack of confidence from a mile away. Let it all out.

6. Never introduce her to your friends in the first date

Your main goal is to get to know each other and it is quite impossible to do it in one night. Typically, she would leave out some information until your next date which is totally normal. Now introducing her to your friends in the first date when you yourself barely know each other is quite against what you really want to do. So it is important to build a strong connection with her first before you try to introduce her to your friends. In some cases, when you expose her to your boys it is likely that she involuntarily develop a connection with your friends before she does with you and you don’t want that.

7. Sell yourself

At the end of the day we are promoting ourselves to people we don’t know. Sell yourself like you would when you are in a job interview. Show her that you can take care of her by taking control of situations. Be confident in everything you say and be yourself. If she doesn’t like who you are then she’s not for you.

How women size you up, Gentlemen


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Early this morning, I was brainstorming for my next blog post while listening to the Radio(“the John Tesh Radio Show”). There was this topic that really caught my attention. John was talking about, “how women would size you up in 5 seconds guaranteed”. He just listed the factors, but didn’t elaborate. I thought I should discuss those factors in further detail.

As guys, we all know that women makes snap judgements about us all the time. Its been like that since the beginning of time, its a given. And to some of us, it may not be a surprise any more. We’re so used to it, we sometimes unconsciously act the way she wants us to. Notice yourself when you’re with your friends, now compare that when you’re with her. Exactly, that’s why people say that you can’t really tell that you know someone, until you actually lived with them. But until then, you can follow these to help you get that good first impression.

 This best applies to guys that had been living on their own, and has their own place.

(This isn’t arranged in any order)

Books

DSC_0548 (2) Yes books! Experts says, that women would associate no books with no brains. You have to have books in your apartment. Even if you don’t read, if you really want that good first impression, then set up that little library. It wouldn’t cost you much, you can always just salvage any old bookshelf from your old house or get one in goodwill, do whatever. Just get one.

Bathroom

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A Clean bathroom! Having a dirty bathroom tells a girl that you have very poor hygiene. Who wants to have that as a First impression? If you know she’s coming over, then make time to clean your bathroom prior to her visit. This is arguably the most important factor in the list. Do it!

Food

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Mhm this is always on the list. A stocked kitchen with cook books, utensils, healthy food in the fridge, will tell a girl that you can actually fend for yourself. That’s one of the most important things to know, she would think that you could possibly take care of her too. Mac and Cheese is awesome though, not going to lie.

Pets

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Your pets could actually help you get a girl. Now that’s something I never heard about. Anything that can be nurtured, factors into this, like Cats, Dogs, and even plants. This means that you are capable of taking care of other things other than yourself. Get yourself a dog, walk it out and watch it do its magic. trust it will work!

Big screen TV & Gaming Consoles

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I totally disagree on this one. Especially, when everyone has it at home. Not having an Entertainment set up is blasphemy. But Experts says that Having a Big Screen TV and gaming console in your house, tells a girl that you have too much time in your hands and immature. hmm. That’s true in many ways, but also wrong. Its true because it does give out a vibe that you play video games most of your spare time, and also wrong because nowadays consoles have many other uses other than gaming, watching movies for one. I mean, that’s my opinion. If anything, just tell her that you only use your gaming console for watching movies, but you don’t want to seem defensive too.

Relationship 101: who controls your relationship?


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The person who cares the least, Controls the relationship.

We all thought about this situation and we have it at the back of our minds, but we don’t talk about it. It is not something that couples talk about. You may be doing it already, you just haven’t realized it. It might also be working out to your advantage, but not all people have the same way of thinking. It also can be a complete disaster movie. (This only applies to serious relationships)

What I’m saying is, people react differently. Some might be OK with it and some might be completely offended by it. Some relationships are unconsciously doing it, and it might be working out for them.

My theory is that, successful couples has the right amount of care between the both of them, which created balance in their universe.

In my opinion, it doesn’t need to be equal, you just have to analyze your situation and figure out what works out for the both of you. I mean, Its really just finding the right combinations.

Now to answer the question, Yes its true and will continue to be. Its not always a bad thing, again if it works for your relationship and it creates balance, then it must be doing something right.

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Now, it doesn’t mean you don’t care at all, that’s different. It just means that you’re opening up some space for your partner to fill up. It sometimes the other way around, your partner may have some space for you to fill up. Key is don’t go over that limit, Just fill up whatever needs to be filled and stay within it. Some people tend to be overwhelming and most of the time their partners feel that they are obligated to match it. They will feel pressured and sometimes confused, which can lead to a breakup.

You may agree or disagree with this point of view. Keep in mind that this is just the technical side of things. Relationships are complicated that way. There are a lot of areas to be covered when it comes to this. Its just really a matter of perspective. We all think differently in different situations. This is just for those people who needs an answer to, “why things are the way they are?”. I hope to have covered that area.