Life experiences predicts the future


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Think of yourself as an empty box, and every time you experience something, you add it into that box.

That’s how life works. Our personality today is the collection of the experiences generated through the years that we’ve been here.

Those experiences are available to us whenever we need to make a decision in life. Through past experiences, we can assess the situation and make the right decisions based upon the experiences you’ve gained in the past.

(Now if you’ve never had experienced anything like it before, I would suggest that you learn from others who have, do not make a decision on your own).

This rule applies to anything in life, whether be work related, family, or relationships. It is best to be absolutely sure than learn it the hard way.

Employers tend to lean towards candidates that has vast amounts of experience in the field, versus a candidate who is fresh out of Stanford with academic achievements. I mean its an obvious choice, (and again that choice is based upon the employers own experience or knowledge gained from other sources).

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Theory learned in school doesn’t always translate well into practice. Its a no brainer for most of us, but how would you explain it?. Its simple,

“the candidate with a lot of experience was exposed to a significant number of decision making scenarios in the past”.

which ultimately brings us to experienced gained, and more experience means that if ever presented with the same scenario in the future, you are more likely to make the right decision..

Relationships also require smart decision making. It only differs from the amount of factors that comes into play when talking about relationships. But the decision making itself requires experience.

When it comes to relationships, we tend to shut off the rest of the world.

When I was growing up, I never listened to anyone but myself, I wanted to make my own decisions. I was stubborn, I had to learn the hard way.

There was never a short cut when it comes to relationships, its just complicated that way. But through all those experiences, I have learned that to do the right things and say the right things are the foundations of a strong relationship. That is were experience come into play. You may have said the wrong things before, but you can use that knowledge in the future, so that you don’t make the same mistakes.

There are two kinds of people, There are people who make mistakes and correct them along the way, and there are people who are well equipped with knowledge from other peoples past experiences and try to learn from it before it happens. I’d like to think that I am the well equipped kind of person

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It’s true, and it goes with the quote, “History repeats itself”, and sometimes it does. That is why Do’s and Don’ts came along, That information is based on other peoples life experiences and they have worked in the past. It is best to be aware than go about it blindfolded.

As we we’re growing up, we develop our knowledge through everyday experiences. Our personality was built from It and moulded us into what we are today.

Parenting 101 : Trust granted not earned


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What brought you to this article? Is it because you want to know if you’re making the right choices as a parent? or are you a soon to be parent?. Well whatever that is, you came here because you were curious. You wanted to increase your knowledge on something that you truly care about. Have you ever asked yourself,

Does my behaviour affect my children’s attitude?,

Am I being over protective?.

These are the questions that we will try to answer as we go along.

Does my behaviour affect my children’s attitude? The only way to answer that question is to put yourself in their situation.

When I was a child growing up. I never liked it when my parents never trusted me with anything. I could never understand why. It just never made sense to me. I was a good child. I always followed the rules.

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There’s this famous saying,

” trust is not given, it is earned”.

I know most of us would buy into that, and part of it is true. But I believe that starting to build trust with your child at an early age is the right choice. let me explain.

Parents are responsible for building a good trust system between you and your child.

A good example would be my friend, lets call her Dona. Donas parents are very over protective of her. She never did anything wrong. She had a curfew at 6pm. She could never go out with her boyfriend late without having her sister come along. She knows that they are not doing anything wrong and that her parents are being unreasonable She felt like she had no choice but to lie to her parents so that they can be together.

That’s one of the reasons why we lie, and the reason why most children treated that way ends up being rebellious.

Now if you were to trust your child, make them feel that you trust them. You would get a totally different result.

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I, myself, would never do anything to break a trust. I value trust more than anything. I would be foolish to break a trust given to me without having to earn them. I think that would be a child’s initial reaction. That is why trusting them early is very important. Its putting them in the right direction.